Since You Asked
Would you say you have figured everything out at this point in your life, understand the meaning of life, see eye-to-eye with every person you encounter, and experience zero problems or issues in your life?
If you answered yes, I want to know you. My guess is that you are like most humans, you don’t yet know it all, understand everything, have perfect relationships, or live problem free. You may even be at the point in life where you realize you never will. Instead, you have questions about life, relationships, and work that if answered will help you live a better ordinary life. Spoiler alert. I don’t know it all either or experience a problem free life.
But I do have perspective, expertise, and wisdom, that can be helpful. I also have a desire and calling to help you to live a meaningful life based on your personal values. Many people come to me with questions and tell me that our conversations are helpful. The answers we discuss help them to see better, have direction, and make decisions. For these reasons and more, The Commons with Karla podcast includes a segment called Since You Asked.
Join in the fun and ask the questions you want answers to. Ask now or continue reading to the end.
Why ask a podcast host instead of your friends, spouse, coach, or therapist?
For sure, there are questions you can and do ask your friends, spouse, therapist, or coach. Awesome. I am glad you have those people in your life and that you are having conversations. But sometimes the question you have is about one of those relationships. Or maybe it’s a question that you asked and the answer given did not help so you are looking for more guidance or a different perspective.
There also may be a reason for your question to be private from the people in your life so you can ask anonymously and no one in your “in-real-life” will be the wiser. Another reason to ask me is that you listen to my podcast regularly, already trust me, and like my approach. Also, I am not “just” a podcast host. I live the roles of friend to lots, spouse to one, and coach to many (therapist to none).
Why ask now?
A better question is “why wait?”. You can ask your question now instead of continuing to give head space to the situation. Ruminating over the same situations without resolution is a waste of time and holds you back from living a joyful and purposeful life.
Sometimes, I like to call it “getting off the fence”. Picture a white picket fence. Beautiful, serene, clean, simple, and perfect in front of a home. Now picture you sitting on the fence. I have never sat on a white picket fence with its pointed wood pressing into my body, but I can only imagine how uncomfortable, even painful it is. By getting answers to your questions, you can get off the fence. Solid ground on either side is better than sitting on the fence.
What kinds of questions?
There are all kinds of questions you might want to ask about life, relationships, and work. Some of the types of questions include:
Stuck - you are paralyzed in making a decision or moving forward in life, a relationship, or work
Curious - you are interested in how others see a situation in the world or want to know more about something
Vulnerable - you are hurting and want answers or direction to faith or relationship questions
Timing - you struggle with when to move and when to wait and want guidance on priorities, organization, or
Clarity - you waffle between security and wanting more or desires versus needs
Values - you experience stress because your days are out of alignment with who you are
Podcast, Coaching, or Memory Lane Chats - you are interested in knowing more about The Commons community or me
What is the difference between advice and coaching?
There is a time and place for both advice and coaching. Advice offers answers and potential solutions to a question asked based on the experiences and paradigm of the person giving the advice. Opinions and judgments are a part of the answer given. Coaching offers support by asking questions and then offering encouragement and tools to the individual to come up with their own answers and way forward.
In the Since You Asked segment on the podcast, I answer the question given the limited amount of information provided. Sometimes that week’s podcast guest will chime in too. Since the podcast is distributed widely, the question and answer is public and meant to be inspiring for women dealing with the same question or situation.
How to ask?
If you have a question about life, relationships, or work, ask by submitting your question with your name or anonymously. Each week on The Commons with Karla podcast, I will answer one or more questions. Maybe your question will be next.
